Save the Boys Initiative

I could still remember vividly the first encounter at age 6 how it all started. Three of my cousins came for holidays and introduced me to sex. I remember how they will fondle my penis and put me between their thighs to get sexual pleasure. They will bring out their breasts for me to touch. At that age, I didn't actually understand what was going on, I was so small and just kept mute as it happened. It was not pleasurable for me at first but was just adventurous as I watched it happen. They continued each holiday until it began to give me pleasure. At some point, I started looking forward to when they will come as I longed for that touch. As if that was not enough, our house help started having the same with me and before the age of 10, I was already sexually active. My parents never had a clue as they would never have suspected that my cousins or house help could do such, of cause it is unimaginable. I thought this was just a child's play but I never knew I was ent...

He ordered them to kill every male child... Mat 2:16 The attack on the male child has been a long ragging battle and it is an attack against the purpose of God. From Adam to Moses, to Jesus, there has always been a contention to wipe out the males. This shows there is a fundamental place the man occupies in fulfilling God's agenda on earth and until our eyes are open to the schemes of the enemy and victory won in this battle, we will only keep moving in an unending circle of pain and reproach. No wonder the evil existing in the lives of our boys and the grip of darkness over them. The rate at which they are involved in all manner of social ills is alarming and we don't seem to understand the schemes of the enemy. It is an orchestrated battle and we must arise to save them if we desire to see God's agenda fulfilled in our generation. If we must win the battle against the enemy at the gate and reclaim our God-ordained heritage, then we must equip our boys a...

My heart bleeds each day with different stories of men who are terribly broken due to the ripple effect of sexual abuse. A lot are deeply struggling with wild range of unquenchable sexual desire as a result of this scar. I am pained to see our women and girls suffering severe abuse, violence and rape from these broken men. Boys are one of the most sexually abused sets of people but since they are boys, have a penis and look stronge r, nobody believes them, no one feels it damages them. They think we enjoy it. So many men today are sex addicts simply because they started experiencing sexual pleasures from a very tender age of 4-9 years by older ladies, aunties, sister's friends, older neighbours, maids and even school teachers who got them involved in sexual activities, and as a result making them addicts and sex freaks. They are emotionally damaged to the point that they hardly recognize themselves as they sleep around. Some men now hate sex or prefer men to women. We call ...

Boys’ self-confidence is also at risk because of gender stereotypes, which leave them, too, feeling inadequate when they believe they don’t meet expectations, and gives them few outlets to express their feelings. “There’s this myth that boys don’t have as many feelings or they’re not as emotional,” says Rachel Busman, PsyD, a senior clinical psychologist at the Child Mind Institute. “These are misperceptions. We need to be more nurturing of our boys, as well.”

I grew up in the church and had Christian morals. At a very tender age, we had a neighbour who was a very close friend of mine. When our parents were out, we would always play together; acting drama, touching ourselves carelessly, acting sex in the drama. Being both boys we enjoyed it but we didn't know what we were doing and where we were quietly heading to. We never thought it will have any negative effect on us when we grow up. This continued for a while and at age 12, I discovered that I started having feelings for same-sex and I just couldn't love a lady.  I tried severally but it just didn't work out. As time passed, I started getting irresistible sexual advances from my barbers and mother's driver. It started getting complicated for me. As a result, I became an angry and aggressive boy. I began to sexually molest other boys. I stayed in this mess and suffered the trauma for 12 years until finally I opened up, spoke to someone in the fellowship who c...

Let us teach the boychild that; * Find someone you can trust and talk to when you have a challenge. *Don't listen to those who say men don't cry. Cry out if and when you are in need of help. Not everyone will call you a stubborn or bad boy. Someone will listen to you, put himself/herself in your shoes, understand you and advise you. * The feeling you are having as an adolescent is natural and normal. Control yourself and don't go raping or harassing girls when your body is misbehaving. That may take you to jail and waste your life. * Take responsibility for your actions. Having sex at a young age is wrong but if you do and impregnate your fellow school mate or girl at your age, do not neglect her to go through all the humiliation and suffering all by herself. * Do not go having sex when you are not ready to take responsibility. * As you grow up and have a wife and/or father children, take responsibility and never neglect your children as you surely re...