Save the Boys Initiative

I grew up in the church and had Christian morals. At a very tender age, we had a neighbour who was a very close friend of mine. When our parents were out, we would always play together; acting drama, touching ourselves carelessly, acting sex in the drama. Being both boys we enjoyed it but we didn't know what we were doing and where we were quietly heading to. We never thought it will have any negative effect on us when we grow up. This continued for a while and at age 12, I discovered that I started having feelings for same-sex and I just couldn't love a lady.  I tried severally but it just didn't work out. As time passed, I started getting irresistible sexual advances from my barbers and mother's driver. It started getting complicated for me. As a result, I became an angry and aggressive boy. I began to sexually molest other boys. I stayed in this mess and suffered the trauma for 12 years until finally I opened up, spoke to someone in the fellowship who c...

Let us teach the boychild that; * Find someone you can trust and talk to when you have a challenge. *Don't listen to those who say men don't cry. Cry out if and when you are in need of help. Not everyone will call you a stubborn or bad boy. Someone will listen to you, put himself/herself in your shoes, understand you and advise you. * The feeling you are having as an adolescent is natural and normal. Control yourself and don't go raping or harassing girls when your body is misbehaving. That may take you to jail and waste your life. * Take responsibility for your actions. Having sex at a young age is wrong but if you do and impregnate your fellow school mate or girl at your age, do not neglect her to go through all the humiliation and suffering all by herself. * Do not go having sex when you are not ready to take responsibility. * As you grow up and have a wife and/or father children, take responsibility and never neglect your children as you surely re...

 Many times we see groups, NGOs talk for and about the GirlChild. We hardly ever hear any talk about the BoyChild. This is not to say that there is anything wrong with talking for and seeking the wellbeing of our girls, admitted, girls are more vulnerable. But aren't our boys equally vulnerable? It's about time we pay equal attention to the BoyChild as well. Growing up as a young girl in a town called Mamponteng in the Ashanti Region, I seemed to be more enlightened than children of my age in that part of the world. I was very observant, clever (at least that's what I heard some adult say about me many times), assertive and Godfearing. I was one of the favourite little girls in the Catholic church there. I took part in almost every church activity. In fact, I was the first child to be part of the adults' choir. I remember returning home from church with gifts especially cash almost always. My little brother on the other hand who was seen as 'stubborn...